I’m embarrassed to admit how many times I’ve looked over at my husband and wondered what’s wrong with him.
Usually, my thoughts go like this:
If he would just be…
Why can’t he…
How could he…
You too? It’s so easy to judge another person’s faults before our own. So, we stomp our feet, slam cabinet doors, scrub the dirty pan a little more vigorously, or give our husbands the silent treatment. The man across the room might not hear us mumble under our breath or let out a theatrical sigh, but God does.
Sometimes we’re more direct. We hurl accusations, point fingers, and list off our grievances. We’re quick to become angry and quick to speak. But we’re often pretty slow to listen to the Holy Spirit’s prick on our own hearts.
Jesus invites us to a better way. He says to examine our own hearts first. Instead of judging our husband’s hearts, we can look at our own.
Our thoughts could turn to ones like this:
What sin am I clinging to?
How have I failed to live in a manner worthy of Christ?
Do I need to apologize for an ill-timed word, pride, a wrong expectation, or bad attitude?
There will certainly be times when we need to confront our husbands, work through conflict, and express how we feel. But let’s be sure we’re taking the plank out of our own eye before we remove the speck from his.
Search me, O God, and know my heart! Try me and know my thoughts! And see if there be any grievous way in me, and lead me in the way everlastingPsalm 139:23-24
This is Day 6 of a series: A Diligent Wife