Someone recently asked: How can I encourage my husband to lead our family spiritually, without nagging him?
This is such a great question, and one I’ve wrestled with over the years. We could talk about it from a number of angles, but one practical way I’ve learned to navigate it is this:
Ask rather than tell.
Curiosity is always a much less threatening approach. And oftentimes, our husbands desire to lead our families in gospel-growth, but they either aren’t sure how to do it, feel ill-equipped, or lack creativity. We have the privilege of respectfully and lovingly, helping them lead.
Here are some questions to get you started:
- How do you think our children need to grow in their knowledge of and love for God?
- What areas of discipline and instruction are most challenging for you right now?
- Where do you want us to focus our energy in ministry within our home, community, and church?
- Are there ways I can help facilitate your ideas and goals?
- How can I pray for you as you lead our family?
- Would you be willing to consider…? (And then humbly make your suggestion. He will probably love that you’ve given so much attention to this aspect of your family, and will support you 100%).
As a husband and wife team, we have the privilege to work together as co-laborers in Christ, through Christ, and to the glory of God.
This is Day 13 of a series: A Diligent Wife