• Write It Down

    Sometimes we shy away from what Scripture teaches because we don’t like what God has to say. It’s a sin as old as Eden. A sin which had severe consequences for Adam, Eve, all of God’s good creation, and extended to all mankind. But God’s commands and instructions were always for his people’s good. The Lord established ways to help…

  • Ask for Help

    If you’re anything like me, you don’t like to feel needy. We don’t want to be a burden to anyone and we think other people’s needs are more significant than ours. Sometimes we feel embarrassed by our inability to cope when life is hard. We hide our feelings of inadequacy behind a smile and a cheerful voice. When someone asks…

  • Count the Moments

    To fellow military wives (or future ones): You’re going to be tempted to keep track of all the things your husband misses. Anniversaries, birthdays, holidays, algebra homework, broken bones, looking for a home at your new post, major decisions in your kid’s lives, news of a diagnosis, the hardest phone calls you could ever imagine. You’ll be tempted to count…

  • Take Your Time: Marriage is a Marathon, Not a Sprint

    After six years in coastal Virginia, I expect a slow transition to fall. But every year I’m still a little disappointed. Our maple tree in the front yard is still green, there are no leaves to rake, and we’re still wearing shorts and sandals. Until yesterday. For the first time this season, we put on long sleeves and cardigans. I…

  • Remember When

    Remember when it was all so new? Holding hands, our first kiss, crawling into bed together after the wedding. We were eager, excited, and expectant for everything in store. We knew to expect hardship and challenges, but we didn’t know what shape or form they would take. We never imagined a tragic death would claim my brother and forever alter…

  • Lighten Up: Making the Most of Alone Time in Marriage

    I will be the first to admit I often sabotage our alone time. My expectations are high: we must go deep, fast; meaningful connection is mandatory; and we can’t afford to waste time with light-hearted conversation. It can go something like this: Me: (Silently hoping we can discuss the current state of our marriage, set goals, or do a deep…

  • Carve It Out

    We sit in the living room at the end of the day. He leans his head against the back of the chair, feet propped on the reclining chair, eyes closed. I settle into my spot and sigh. We conquered the bedtime routine. Finally, a few moments to enjoy an uninterrupted conversation. About three sentences into our much needed alone time,…

  • Ignite the Fire: Remember God’s Good Design for Sexual Intimacy

    I remember sitting in the auditorium with my jaw in my hand and my eyes bulging. I had been asked to speak on a panel with several other single women, during a conference on sexual intimacy. But between the time they asked me to participate, and the actual event, I agreed to marry my husband. As a newly engaged woman,…

  • Listen to Advice

    May we never forget our greatest pursuit. There aren’t many books I have read and loved on marriage. So, when I find a good one, I like to recommend it. Married for God: Making Your Marriage the Best It Can Be, is at the top of my list. This is Day 10 of a series: A Diligent Wife