• Ignite the Fire: Remember God’s Good Design for Sexual Intimacy

    I remember sitting in the auditorium with my jaw in my hand and my eyes bulging. I had been asked to speak on a panel with several other single women, during a conference on sexual intimacy. But between the time they asked me to participate, and the actual event, I agreed to marry my husband. As a newly engaged woman,…

  • Listen to Advice

    May we never forget our greatest pursuit. There aren’t many books I have read and loved on marriage. So, when I find a good one, I like to recommend it. Married for God: Making Your Marriage the Best It Can Be, is at the top of my list. This is Day 10 of a series: A Diligent Wife

  • Plant A Seed

    I was taking out the garbage one day, and noticed something small emerging from the ground. When I bent over and pulled back the dirt, I found a tiny hydrangea bush, and I was shocked. Earlier that summer, I haphazardly plopped a hydrangea bush in the ground right next to the recycling bins, and promptly forgot about it. It was…

  • Pick Five: Keep Having Fun With Your Husband

    I remember his words like it was yesterday. We were planning our honeymoon, and my husband said, “I want to go somewhere where we can mingle with the locals.” I had more of a five-star resort in mind. Lush bedding, a gorgeous view, a private spot on the beach, time with my husband, and no one else. Except maybe an…

  • Move Closer

    A few years ago, I asked Bradley to help me with a major diaper blowout. He was eager and willing to help, but I quickly became irritated because he wasn’t actually helpful. I had to give him step-by-step instructions on how to put a diaper underneath the baby and use extra wipes to clean up the mess. It didn’t matter…

  • Look Inside

    I’m embarrassed to admit how many times I’ve looked over at my husband and wondered what’s wrong with him. Usually, my thoughts go like this: If he would just be…Why can’t he…How could he… You too? It’s so easy to judge another person’s faults before our own. So, we stomp our feet, slam cabinet doors, scrub the dirty pan a…

  • Keep It Simple: One Tip for Marital Intimacy

    Last week, I asked my Instagram followers: What marital challenges are you facing? Of those who responded, ninety percent named marital intimacy. They admitted exhaustion and an inability to find time for their husbands. Most expressed a desire to improve in the area of intimacy with their husbands, but it felt impossible. When little children need you constantly, it’s difficult…

  • First Things First

    As a young teenager, I made a rather extensive list of all the qualities I was looking for in a husband. I combined traits from many of the men I respected—plus a few extras—just to be sure I found the man who would fulfill all my hopes and dreams. When I graduated from college without a ring on my finger,…

  • Quote It

    My husband brought several pieces of furniture into our marriage: six woven dining chairs, two barstools, and a wooden bookshelf. Although several chairs are now wobbly from fifteen years of use, we cannot bring ourselves to part with them. I’m okay with this because they’re functional, and new dining room chairs are expensive. However, the bookshelf is another story. I…